Saturday, September 26, 2020

Using Mindfulness Meditation for Kids With Autism & Feedback on My Stress Management Session

Using Mindfulness Meditation Can Now Help Kids With Autism 

Researchers at Rutgers University found that kids with autism can avoid having to take drugs by using the meditation practice of mindfulness. The researchers worked with a small group of high-functioning adolescents with autism.

The kids spent 8 weeks learning the basics of mindfulness, which involves focusing on the body, their thoughts and emotions while doing mindfulness breathing. 

They found that the kids improved what’s called their executive function, which includes controlling their emotions, having a greater self-control, increasing their ability to focus and also have a flexibility to adapt to changing situations. 

So…for kids with autism, they now have the ability to tap into a cost-effective method that’s totally free of side effects to help them navigate the world around them. A great deal!

     Impact of My Virtual Seminar Presentation (VSP)
       Managing Your Stress in These Difficult Times

I just did my VSP on Managing Your Stress in These Difficult Times for 2 groups. I allowed them to combine so they were able to split my Virtual fee.

One group was the Suncoast Chapter of the Association of Legal Administrators and the other group was the Associated Builders and Contractors Great Houston Chapter. 

The session was an hour and a half and had lots of audience involvement with people actually doing the techniques I was teaching them. The nicest part for me was that 81% rated the session Excellent and 12% rated it Good!

If you know of any groups, companies or organizations that would be interested in my doing this VSP for their people, please let me know and I’ll get them a pr packet.

Saturday, September 19, 2020

De-smoking Your House and Seeing the Glass Half Empty

                                             De-Smoking Your House

With all the fires out West, air pollution is at dangerous levels and the smoke may be getting into your house. I ran across this recommendation for de-smoking your house. I don’t know if it will work for the people out West (I live in Virginia so I can’t experiment with it). Let me know if it does works.

So, the recommendation is to simmer a pot of water on the stove and add one or a combination of these items – cedar, fir, thyme, sage, or rosemary. According to what I read, the water vapor that comes off the pot attaches to smoke particles and drops them to the ground which makes the air more breathable. The article also recommended adding drops of peppermint oil every 20 minutes for extra soothing relief.

If this doesn’t work, I apologize in advance, but because of the difficulties people are having out West, I thought it was worth sharing with you. 

      Seeing Things as the Glass Half Empty Has a Bigger Impact on Your Health Than You’d Think

We’ve all heard the expression the glass was half full verses the glass was half empty. The glass half full is interrupted as seeing things from the positive side and the glass half full is seeing things from the negative side.

Well, it turns out that if you regularly see the glass as half empty it can actually lead to your developing dementia and/or Alzheimer’s Disease.

A study reported in the journal Alzheimers Dement even have a term for this negative thinking mode. They call it Repetitive Negative Thinking (RNT). It’s going far beyond having an occasional negative thought. It’s people who have a long term, chronic view of the world.

The researchers tracked 292 people over 55. They looked at the people who had a high RNT score and found that over a four-year period they had greater cognitive decline and memory loss. Brain scans revealed that they had higher deposits of tau and amyloid proteins in their brains.

So…the way you change these out comes if you are prone to RNT is to learn how to meditate or do mindfulness meditation. If you want to learn how to meditate, you can get my book or e-book called Managing Your Stress in Difficult Times: Succeeding in Times of Change. Here’s the link to order it:
(Reported What Doctors Don’t Tell You, September 2020)

Saturday, September 12, 2020

We All Need to Hear the Definition of Love from Kids

 I ran across this post from a friend and decided to share it with you for this week’s blog post.

What does Love mean to 4 to 8 year old kids?? 

A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, 'What does love mean?' The answers they got were broader, deeper, and more profound than anyone could have ever imagined!

'When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So, my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too.
That's love.' Rebecca- age 8

'When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.' Billy - age 4

'Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.' Karl - age 5

'Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.' Chrissy - age 6

'Love is what makes you smile when you're tired.' Terri - age 4

'Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him to make sure the taste is OK.' Danny - age 8

'Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and
just listen.' Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)

'If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate.' Nikka - age 6
(we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)

'Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it every day.' Noelle - age 7

'Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.' Tommy - age 6

'During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore.' Cindy - age 8

'My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.' Clare - age 6

'Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.' Elaine-age 5

'Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.' Chris - age 7

'Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.' Mary Ann - age 4

'I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.' Lauren - age 4

'When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.' (what an image) Karen - age 7

'Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet, and she doesn't think it's gross.' Mark - age 6

'You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.' Jessica - age 8

And the final one: The winner was a four-year-old child whose next-door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, 'Nothing, I just helped him cry.'

Saturday, September 5, 2020

What to Say to your Doctor When You’re in Pain

 It sounds like a simple thing, when you’re in pain just make an appointment to just talk to your doc about it.

Well, according to researchers at California State University in Northridge, there’s a way to talk to your doctor about your pain so that they really hear you.

Here’s what the researchers recommend:

1. Do your best to maintain a relaxed and pleasant demeanor where you’re looking at your doc as the person who can help you with your pain.

2. Describe your pain by using words and numbers. You want to use descriptive words, such as, stabbing, aching, throbbing and you want to put it on a number scale from 0 to 10, where zero is no pain and 10 means excruciating pain.

3. Describe your family history of pain, if other family members have the same condition or if any of them are just highly sensitive to pain.

4. Tell your doc when and how long you have had the pain. Tell the doc what started it and if there are things that make it better or worse. 

5. Consider keeping a pain diary before you even go to the doctor where you record your symptoms and their severity.

6. List things you enjoyed doing in the past but can’t do now because of the pain.

For readers of my blog, you know that after the diagnosis that I’ll then pursue alternative therapies before I will take drugs. What you may not be aware of is that I will always go to the doc for the diagnosis, so I know what I need to research to find effective treatments. 

Saturday, August 29, 2020

People Are Still Doing Positive Things

 This Blurb is different in that it's photos of people doing wonderful 

and uplifting things. Because it's photos, I'm not able to cut and paste 

them into my blog. Instead, I needed to give you a link so you can look at them.

I hope you'll enjoy these 8 photographs as much as I did.

Hthe link:

 See you next week!

Saturday, August 22, 2020

An Easy Way To Feel Happier


If you’ve been reading my weekly blogs for a while, you know I’ve talked about the power of positive thinking. 

This piece is about an easy way for you to feel happier. This is from researchers at the University of Idaho. In this study, they had college students thinking kind thoughts about the people they passed when they were walking around. They did this for just 12-minutes.

These 12-minute folks reported being happier. They also reported having a lower level of anxiety and greater empathy. As the lead researcher, Dawn M. Sweet, PhD said doing this makes people feel connected which can lower stress and translates into improved well-being. 

While the researchers didn’t measure if there was an impact on the people who were receiving these kind thoughts, from my research and experience I know that it was affecting them even though it might have been fleetingly. So just imagine, if you were walking by 10 or 15 people who were all sending you kind thoughts, how this could change the way you feel. 

So…next time you go for a walk or when you’re driving your car, simply send out kind thoughts to the people you’re walking by or the cars you’re passing on the road. In this time of the coronavirus, being happier is something that we should all cherish and the more positive and kinder we are the better off everyone will be!

(Reported Prevention, September 2019)

Saturday, August 15, 2020

When Someone We Love Dies, What Happens to Our Brain?

 COVID-19 has killed over 167,000 Americans. They are all Fathers, Mothers, Grand Parents, Sisters Brothers, Children, and just people’s good friends. When someone close to you dies, it has a profound affect on your brain. Scientists are increasingly viewing this loss as a type of brain injury with the brain rewiring itself to respond to emotional trauma.

Each day that you are reminded of the person’s death, you may be triggering a stress response in your body. There are people who have a pronounced response to the death of a loved one which is called complicated grief. It strikes about 10% of mourners who are intensely grieving their loss. A study published in 2018 in the American Journal of Geriatric Psychology found over 7 years the people with complicated grief had a greater level of cognitive decline than those who had a lower grief response.

Grieving is considered a protective process. You might be asking yourself how is it protective? The answer is that it helps you survive this intense emotional trauma that is happening to your brain and body. 

When a Jewish person dies, the family mourns for 3 to 7 days in a process called sitting Shiva. Friends and relatives come to visit during the time and the talk tends to be about the good memories of the person. Afterwards, the mourner may wind up going to pray twice a day for a year for that person.

An Irish Wake is a time of celebration of the person’s life. A wake is a scene of both sadness and joy as the end of that person’s life is marked while the person’s life is remembered and treasured.

Both of these approaches are examples of how different cultures mourning processes are attempting to rewire the brain back to the positive side. Since the person’s death can be a brain injury to the survivors, it can take time for the person to heal.

There are ways you can speed up the healing process by using meditation, cognitive behavioral therapy and even massage. A study published in 2019 of 23 bereaved people in Frontiers in Human Neuroscience found that participating in an eight-week mindfulness-based cognitive therapy improved the grieving person’s functioning.

So…if COVID-19 has taken a loved one, you need to remember to take care of yourself. You might want to do it for the person that you lost, as they might just be smiling down from the other side at your recovery. (Reported Discover, 2020)